Visiting Gravesite

Question:

Is there any custom for a person in mourning for his parent to visit the graveside on the thirtieth day of the mourning?

AskTheRabbi.org answered:

Yes, there is. The Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh Deah, 344:20, writes that it is correct to go to the grave on the thirtieth day. In general, the custom is not to go to the grave during the first year of a person's passing with the exception of the day that sitting shiva ends, the thirtieth day, and the unveiling of the tombstone - which usually occurs on one of those days or on the yahrzeit.

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